Marriage.

Forewarning, this might be a touchy subject, and I might lose a few followers, but I believe this needs to be said, this is not directed at ANY particular blogger or any particular person, just society as a whole!  

People have been driving me nuts lately with complaining about their marriage and divorce and how they don't like that their hubby wants to spend time with not only them, but with their kiddos too.  Um newsflash people, when you have kids or you marry someone who has kids already, you are going to have to wait for it COMPROMISE *shocker*
Yes, you spend time with them all day, but that is YOUR job, not saying that it defines you, but it is YOUR choice to do so, and your hubby does not get that luxury of spending time with the kids, so yes, unfortunately, you will have to spend more time with them when your hubby does when he gets home.    Most children have a bedtime that is not the same as their parents, spend the time after they go to bed together. It really isn't that hard of a concept to grasp, at least not for me.
& if you didn't want to work around kids, you knew that your husband/boyfriend/what have you had kids before you ever talked marriage.
Which is an a good segue for my next vent.
Marriage.
Marriage is meant to be FOREVER.
Unfortunately our society has seemed to have forgotten this.
When you say I do, it DOES NOT mean I do until you get bored or until it gets hard or until your husband doesn't want it anymore, you FIGHT for what you want and what you deserve.  & you don't complain about how you have to deal with all the bills and providing for your child, when you went into it setting yourself up for failure.  Vows are meant to be forever people!  In sickness and in health for richer and for poorer!
I posted this status a few days ago, because yes, I have been frustrated about this for the last week or two:
 
I wish people would take their wedding vows seriously, and to just decide to get a divorce because they didn't feel like being married anymore? Than why do you get married in the first place? If & when I get married, I will make sure I love the person and they love me back and divorce will NOT be a word in our relationship ever! #lessonslearned

& before you go saying I don't have children and am not married or been divorced or any of that shiz, let me remind you, MY parents are divorced and it's left scars, and I just hate to have to see kids go through it like I did just because their parents didn't feel like being married or got bored.

& yes, I believe there are circumstances where divorce is inevitable.  Without divorce, I would not have:
-2 of my best friends(Lynn & Mady)
-my best friend(V) wouldn't have her awesomesauce hubby and adorable kidlet and kidlet to be

When I see something that is supposed to be cherished and be a vow that is taken to the grave being stomped on like this, it not only makes me mad, it makes me sad, because this was not what God had in mind when he created marriage. 

& yes, I believe if you work at something that you WANT and that you DESIRE, I believe you can re-fall in love with your husband/fiance.  I have seen it happen not once but TWICE with two of my best friends, one it was her hubby, and second it was her fiance.  & they both almost threw in the towel, and they are now both more in love than they have ever been, at least for what I've been able to see, and they are more than welcome to disagree with me on this, but I'm pretty sure I am correct. 

& don't tell me marriages don't last anymore, I call BS on that one right there!  My grandma and grandpa G were married 48 years before my grandpa passed away, and let me tell you, my grandpa could be a pain in the ass sometimes, but he loved my grandma unconditionally, and she loved him the same.  My grandma and grandpa B have been married 51 years, and they still love each other like crazy.  & my grandma and grandpa H have been married 44 years, and yes, they are madly in love with one another, but their past also hasn't been sunshine and rainbows the whole time either, now my Grandpa treats my grandma like the queen she is, and has taught me what to look for when I'm looking for a husband. He opens the door for her EVERYWHERE, and she calls him hot and sexy, it's awkward lil bit, but so cute in the same way.    My dad and stepmom have been married almost 11 years--holy cow batman how did that happen? & Lynn mom has taught me that love is not a feeling, but a choice, you have to choose each day(and sometimes with her and my dad she jokes its hour to hour and minute to minute), and I know there are times where Lynn Mom will just ignore my dad because she is just so ticked at him, but divorce has NEVER been a part of their dictionary and will never be.
You just can tell my parents love each other, fun story to lighten the mood, the other day on the way to work, there is a train track that runs by our house, and we were stopped at it, and Lynn Mom was right behind us, so my Dad puts the car in park, runs back to her car and kisses her.  Now that is the kind of thing that forever marriages are made of.  He is always taking her in his arms and -eww- squeezing her butt and starts kissing her, and it just makes this girl so happy that she has parents that are so unconditionally in love. 

Kudos to everyone who read all the way through this and didn't want to throw something at me.  Love you all.

-stepping off of my soapbox now-