Forewarning, this might be a touchy subject, and I might lose a few followers, but I believe this needs to be said, this is not directed at ANY particular blogger or any particular person, just society as a whole!
People have been driving me nuts lately with complaining about their
marriage and divorce and how they don't like that their hubby wants to
spend time with not only them, but with their kiddos too. Um newsflash
people, when you have kids or you marry someone who has kids already,
you are going to have to wait for it COMPROMISE *shocker*
Yes, you spend time with them all day, but that is YOUR job, not saying
that it defines you, but it is YOUR choice to do so, and your hubby does
not get that luxury of spending time with the kids, so yes,
unfortunately, you will have to spend more time with them when your
hubby does when he gets home. Most children have a bedtime that is
not the same as their parents, spend the time after they go to bed
together. It really isn't that hard of a concept to grasp, at least not
& if you didn't want to work around kids, you knew that your
husband/boyfriend/what have you had kids before you ever talked
Which is an a good segue for my next vent.
Marriage is meant to be FOREVER.
Unfortunately our society has seemed to have forgotten this.
When you say I do, it DOES NOT mean I do until you get bored or until it
gets hard or until your husband doesn't want it anymore, you FIGHT for
what you want and what you deserve. & you don't complain about how
you have to deal with all the bills and providing for your child, when
you went into it setting yourself up for failure. Vows are meant to be
forever people! In sickness and in health for richer and for poorer!
I posted this status a few days ago, because yes, I have been frustrated about this for the last week or two:
I wish people would take their wedding vows seriously, and to just
decide to get a divorce because they didn't feel like being married
anymore? Than why do you get married in the first place? If & when I
get married, I will make sure I love the person and they love me back
and divorce will NOT be a word in our relationship ever!
& before you go saying I don't have children and am not married or
been divorced or any of that shiz, let me remind you, MY parents are
divorced and it's left scars, and I just hate to have to see kids go
through it like I did just because their parents didn't feel like being
married or got bored.
& yes, I believe there are circumstances where divorce is inevitable. Without divorce, I would not have:
-2 of my best friends(Lynn & Mady)
-my best friend(V) wouldn't have her awesomesauce hubby and adorable kidlet and kidlet to be
When I see something that is supposed to be cherished and be a vow that
is taken to the grave being stomped on like this, it not only makes me
mad, it makes me sad, because this was not what God had in mind when he
& yes, I believe if you work at something that you WANT and that you
DESIRE, I believe you can re-fall in love with your husband/fiance. I
have seen it happen not once but TWICE with two of my best friends, one
it was her hubby, and second it was her fiance. & they both almost
threw in the towel, and they are now both more in love than they have
ever been, at least for what I've been able to see, and they are more
than welcome to disagree with me on this, but I'm pretty sure I am
& don't tell me marriages don't last anymore, I call BS on that one
right there! My grandma and grandpa G were married 48 years before my
grandpa passed away, and let me tell you, my grandpa could be a pain in
the ass sometimes, but he loved my grandma unconditionally, and she
loved him the same. My grandma and grandpa B have been married 51
years, and they still love each other like crazy. & my grandma and
grandpa H have been married 44 years, and yes, they are madly in love
with one another, but their past also hasn't been sunshine and rainbows
the whole time either, now my Grandpa treats my grandma like the queen
she is, and has taught me what to look for when I'm looking for a
husband. He opens the door for her EVERYWHERE, and she calls him hot and
sexy, it's awkward lil bit, but so cute in the same way. My dad and
stepmom have been married almost 11 years--holy cow batman how did that
happen? & Lynn mom has taught me that love is not a feeling, but a
choice, you have to choose each day(and sometimes with her and my dad
she jokes its hour to hour and minute to minute), and I know there are
times where Lynn Mom will just ignore my dad because she is just so
ticked at him, but divorce has NEVER been a part of their dictionary and
will never be.
You just can tell my parents love each other, fun story to lighten the
mood, the other day on the way to work, there is a train track that runs
by our house, and we were stopped at it, and Lynn Mom was right behind
us, so my Dad puts the car in park, runs back to her car and kisses
her. Now that is the kind of thing that forever marriages are made of.
He is always taking her in his arms and -eww- squeezing her butt and
starts kissing her, and it just makes this girl so happy that she has
parents that are so unconditionally in love.
Kudos to everyone who read all the way through this and didn't want to throw something at me. Love you all.
-stepping off of my soapbox now-