On Grandparents.

Arizona was amazing! I'll upload pics and do an entry maybe tonight or early tomorrow with all the details. Today I want to talk about my grandparents. My mom's mom(usually referred to as Granny.) The one I wrote about last, passed away March 7th, and it was hard saying goodbye, but I know she's not in pain anymore, so that helps a lot in the hurt. She's with my Grandpa now & they're together for the first time in almost six years so that helps too! But I will miss our Maid Rite lunches and our birthday casino runs. I'll miss Hand&Foot, and just being with her. My mom's dad, my grandpa, I miss him at random times, but especially when Johnny Cash comes on, or we play Hand&Foot or whenever someone calls me Meggy, little stuff like that. He would always sing Johnny Cash, Hand&Foot was the thing to do up at grandma&grandpa's, he'd always say No More Mr. Nice Guy, and I hated the nickname Meggy, he called me that and I was fine with it. My dad's mom is great. She is such a sweetheart, can be overbearing at times, but is part of my amazing support system. She loves playing games and makes me laugh. I love her so much! My dad's dad, let's just say, I was his first granddaughter, and he spoiled/spoils me! I got to drive his boat first, he gave me fourwheeling rides all the time, I was spoiled rotten :) & then to the two awesome grandparents who didn't have to be ♥ & yes, I know I talk about them a lot, and more than the other four, because they live two houses over during the summer and the times they aren't in Arizona. They are two of my greatest supports ever. I am just so blessed to have them in my life, because I know our relationship could have turned out A LOT differently. Anyways, my Grandma, much like Lynn and so much different all at the same time, yes, she's Lynn's mom if people hadn't made that connection yet, she is sweet and caring as Lynn is, but my Grandma doesn't hold back like Lynn does. She will tell you what she thinks no matter what, and I love her for it. She makes beautiful art, loves her family fiercely, would do anything for any of us at a drop of a hat, makes me laugh at how she yells at my Grandpa "RICHARD!" when he annoys her a lot or does something she doesn't like, we have gotten so close the last three or so years, and she like Lynn is another woman of God I look up to SO MUCH! & for my Grandpa? In a few words he's my hero. In his wife's words, "Meghan, Mady, you will NEVER find a man like your grandpa, I got one of the last of the good ones!" They fight like cats and dogs and sometimes I feel bad for my Grandpa, but honestly he brings it on himself a lot of the time :) He is such a gentleman, opens the doors for us ladies, he's wrapped around his granddaughters' fingers, he plays a mean game of Poker(although I did last longer than him again this year down in AZ) and Pickleball, he loves M&M's & Dill pickle chips, loves coming in to tease me at work, you'll usually find him in cowboy boots, he loves chocolate shakes from DQ or McDonald's, but must have two straws to drink it, and is just a great man of God. I strive to find myself a guy like my grandpa, because I refuse to settle for less than the best. I was down in Arizona last week up until Saturday, but my Grandma and Grandpa flew back early Friday morning because two of my cousins were in the state hockey tourney for their age bracket, so they wanted to see that, and then they're flying back tonight at 9:45, is it selfish of me to want their plane to be cancelled because of the storms we're supposed to be getting? Yes it is, but sometimes I just need selfish time lol. So I had to say goodbye last night, and oh my gosh, I about started to cry as they left, I do it everytime, and last night I realized why I react so strongly to them leaving , is the fact that I didn't know with my mom's dad it was the last time I got to see him, he died suddenly and that's my fear that I won't have a chance to spend any more time with them. I am so blessed to have four grandparents left, and I ache for those of you who have lost yours!

Marriage.

Forewarning, this might be a touchy subject, and I might lose a few followers, but I believe this needs to be said, this is not directed at ANY particular blogger or any particular person, just society as a whole!  

People have been driving me nuts lately with complaining about their marriage and divorce and how they don't like that their hubby wants to spend time with not only them, but with their kiddos too.  Um newsflash people, when you have kids or you marry someone who has kids already, you are going to have to wait for it COMPROMISE *shocker*
Yes, you spend time with them all day, but that is YOUR job, not saying that it defines you, but it is YOUR choice to do so, and your hubby does not get that luxury of spending time with the kids, so yes, unfortunately, you will have to spend more time with them when your hubby does when he gets home.    Most children have a bedtime that is not the same as their parents, spend the time after they go to bed together. It really isn't that hard of a concept to grasp, at least not for me.
& if you didn't want to work around kids, you knew that your husband/boyfriend/what have you had kids before you ever talked marriage.
Which is an a good segue for my next vent.
Marriage.
Marriage is meant to be FOREVER.
Unfortunately our society has seemed to have forgotten this.
When you say I do, it DOES NOT mean I do until you get bored or until it gets hard or until your husband doesn't want it anymore, you FIGHT for what you want and what you deserve.  & you don't complain about how you have to deal with all the bills and providing for your child, when you went into it setting yourself up for failure.  Vows are meant to be forever people!  In sickness and in health for richer and for poorer!
I posted this status a few days ago, because yes, I have been frustrated about this for the last week or two:
 
I wish people would take their wedding vows seriously, and to just decide to get a divorce because they didn't feel like being married anymore? Than why do you get married in the first place? If & when I get married, I will make sure I love the person and they love me back and divorce will NOT be a word in our relationship ever! #lessonslearned

& before you go saying I don't have children and am not married or been divorced or any of that shiz, let me remind you, MY parents are divorced and it's left scars, and I just hate to have to see kids go through it like I did just because their parents didn't feel like being married or got bored.

& yes, I believe there are circumstances where divorce is inevitable.  Without divorce, I would not have:
-2 of my best friends(Lynn & Mady)
-my best friend(V) wouldn't have her awesomesauce hubby and adorable kidlet and kidlet to be

When I see something that is supposed to be cherished and be a vow that is taken to the grave being stomped on like this, it not only makes me mad, it makes me sad, because this was not what God had in mind when he created marriage. 

& yes, I believe if you work at something that you WANT and that you DESIRE, I believe you can re-fall in love with your husband/fiance.  I have seen it happen not once but TWICE with two of my best friends, one it was her hubby, and second it was her fiance.  & they both almost threw in the towel, and they are now both more in love than they have ever been, at least for what I've been able to see, and they are more than welcome to disagree with me on this, but I'm pretty sure I am correct. 

& don't tell me marriages don't last anymore, I call BS on that one right there!  My grandma and grandpa G were married 48 years before my grandpa passed away, and let me tell you, my grandpa could be a pain in the ass sometimes, but he loved my grandma unconditionally, and she loved him the same.  My grandma and grandpa B have been married 51 years, and they still love each other like crazy.  & my grandma and grandpa H have been married 44 years, and yes, they are madly in love with one another, but their past also hasn't been sunshine and rainbows the whole time either, now my Grandpa treats my grandma like the queen she is, and has taught me what to look for when I'm looking for a husband. He opens the door for her EVERYWHERE, and she calls him hot and sexy, it's awkward lil bit, but so cute in the same way.    My dad and stepmom have been married almost 11 years--holy cow batman how did that happen? & Lynn mom has taught me that love is not a feeling, but a choice, you have to choose each day(and sometimes with her and my dad she jokes its hour to hour and minute to minute), and I know there are times where Lynn Mom will just ignore my dad because she is just so ticked at him, but divorce has NEVER been a part of their dictionary and will never be.
You just can tell my parents love each other, fun story to lighten the mood, the other day on the way to work, there is a train track that runs by our house, and we were stopped at it, and Lynn Mom was right behind us, so my Dad puts the car in park, runs back to her car and kisses her.  Now that is the kind of thing that forever marriages are made of.  He is always taking her in his arms and -eww- squeezing her butt and starts kissing her, and it just makes this girl so happy that she has parents that are so unconditionally in love. 

Kudos to everyone who read all the way through this and didn't want to throw something at me.  Love you all.

-stepping off of my soapbox now-